The Ministry of Elder Kia K. Reed

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ReClaiming the Family- Part 1

Posted on November 8, 2016 at 6:35 AM
A few days ago as I was enjoying some traditional gospel on youtube, a clip from the movie The Color Purple came on. It was a scene of a worldly woman attempting to sing in a nightclub but she was distracted by singing from a nearby church. The headliner then leads a processional of revelers down a dirt path to the church while singing the moving hymn. The parade burst through the church doors ending with the lady singing very passionately and finally embracing the pastor with these words, "see daddy sinners have soul too". As I watched that clip, tears began to well in my eyes, as I considered the family dynamics playing out in front of me.A young woman feeling shunned by a "holier than thou" father. And a speechless father who accepts and reciprocates his daughter's embrace. This scene of reconciliation moved me, because I love to see families gain victory over the enemy. Over the years, I have found myself a bit sympathetic toward this sinning daughter. All too often I am aware of the ravenous effects of rejection. But I saw something different in the scene on this particular day. I saw an exhausted father. I saw a father of two daughters. One who I am sure lifted them both before the Father and said Lord I give her back to you. We do not see their mother, so perhaps this man had to raise his two daughters alone. I can only imagine the tumultuous teen years as he tried to stir his little girls into adulthood. But, as all parents know, a child must choose his or her own path. While we may be quick to judge this father, we must attempt to understand the emotions he may have been dealing with. Having lived longer and with a little insight, I'm sure he warned his children of life's perils. We must not hear only one narrative. "Yeah, my dad is a preacher and he just cant accept that this is who I am and how I want to be". But there is another person with a story too. That narrative could be: "I've tried all I could, after we buried her mother, she became impossible, she wont talk to me or my sister, she started running with the wrong crowd and now, she lies to me and has disappointed me every time I let my guard down. I cant bear to see her body abused, but I cannot talk any sense into her. I tried to, just love her and I do. My home is always open but every time she comes she steals. How far do I go, I should not have to hide my personal belongings, but I'm willing." So you see this scene is about more than we see on the surface. The untold story of the daughters pain and anger that she lost her mother at a young age, believing she could talk to older men but not her dad, living in deception and believing things must go her way or people don't like her. The untold story of how dad lacked the skills to set healthy boundaries because he at first tried to compensate for their mothers death, the frustration of raising girls alone, the pressure of holding it together for them and never grieving for his wife". Or an combination of father-daughter issues. The added stress of being in the spotlight because he was a preacher and his family is not suppose to experience life like everyone else. Oh yes, I know what's its like to be expected to accept everyone's shortcomings and quirks, but not receive that same grace. You know, I cannot think of one parent who raises his or her newborn to the sky and says, Hey I want you to be a murder when you grow up, or a rapist, or thief, or an addict, or bound by sin. No, we all want the best for our children! In addition, when the Word of God is clear that sin is a bondage, no matter what the world says is ok...Christian parents are devastated to witness their children caught in the snare of the enemy. Just like the mom who didn't finish high school, wants to push her children to excel beyond her limited success. The Christian parent who was once bound in sin wants to empower their children to avoid sins traps. As I tried to imagine the many factors, that the movie does not show by the way, that may have led to this family diversion, I was overwhelmed by the power of forgiveness and reconciliation! God has given every family an assignment and our adversary is there right from the start to divert us from that plan. He began his attack back in the garden. Adam and Eve were to have dominion over creation but satan diverted them. Thanks be unto God, He allowed for reconciliation through Himself, in the person of Jesus Christ! And that same spirit of reconciliation can heal our families today. So I now have some compassion on that speechless father, who was blessed and fortunate enough to live long enough to see a transformation in his child. The scene is a powerful reminder to children and parents that God wants to reclaim your family and restore your dominion so you can complete your assignment in the earth for him.

Family, Food, and Fun!!!

Posted on May 27, 2014 at 2:50 PM

I’m sitting here rehearsing the events of a great weekend! Memorial Day weekend is the official kick-off of summer, where I live. On Saturday I enjoyed the annual Tea Party festival in my community, stopped by a bridal shower, and ended the evening with family at my cousin’s cookout. Each event characterized by great fellowship with people we know and love, entertainment, and you guessed it: GREAT FOOD! With that in mind I thought about this blog and how I had initially intended to write it over a week ago. But after gleaning more insight this week, I believe now is the time. Perhaps this post will be one of a series, but those of you who know me personally; will understand that I’m going to try to give as much here as possible. I have the same spiritual tendencies as natural ones: when it comes to eating I want to eat to get full.

Over the past couple weeks we have been studying the Book of Acts and discussing ways to practically allow the Holy Spirit to flow out of us like the refreshing waters of a springing well (see John 7:38). As we talked I was reminded of my love for all-you-can-eat buffets. There is something psychologically gratifying about having the liberty to enjoy dozens of foods and desserts by paying one reasonable price. Have you ever said to someone, “I’m so full I can barely breathe”? I thought about that…eating so much until it alters my breathing pattern. That’s what we must talk about today. How many times do we feed and cater to our flesh until the spiritual side of us is literally being strangled to death? Sure, our first thought is the obvious appetites of our sinful nature: the outward sexual impurity, drunkenness, reveling and the like. But, what about the inward snares of jealousy, hatred, strife, revenge, and gossip?! Summer time is a great time to be on guard for all types of flesh desires to rise. As we consider the spirit flowing like waters of a well, let us be on guard against those things that come to stop up our wells: both outward and inward fleshly habits. This past week I heard a teaching by Perry Stone that leaped in my belly. Please forgive the pun. Lol. Perry expounds on God’s dietary restrictions in Deuteronomy 14:3-8. Perry notes that when it comes to the swine it only meets half the requirement. It has the cloven hooves, but its diet is wrong! Hallelujah! The contrast is that swine will eat flesh! Let us consider, we can have the walk (go to church, sing the songs, wave our Bibles) but what do we feast on? Perry notes when we should be feasting on the Meat of the Word, we have a tendency to become like wild pigs, searching out and eating flesh. (Pigs are omnivores) Today, I ask, are you feeding on flesh? Are you satisfying your own fleshly desires or foraging around searching out the flesh(mistakes, flaws) of others to consume them? I close with this thought. Remember how much I love the liberty of buffets; however, that liberty becomes deadly when I do not practice self-control. Hear what the apostle says in Galatians 5, the champion for our Christian liberties: “For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself. But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” Galatians 5:13-16. As you embrace the liberties of summer, remember to eat the right things! Don’t starve your Spirit! Your diet needs a healthy dose of kingdom disciplines: Prayer, Bible Study, Fellowship with believers, Worship, and Accountability to name a few.

See you next time----Kia




I'm FREE!...Free to Be Me!

Posted on February 18, 2014 at 10:35 AM

What does it mean to be FREE to BE ME? In my experience this statement has usually been uttered by someone who has grown tired of feeling oppressed, belittled, unappreciated, and overlooked, to name a few. I can identify. Having been the victim of ridicule and rejection, then finally understanding that I did not have to remain in that state was liberating! But what does that liberty look like? Does it mean that now I'm just going to speak my mind because I'm tired of being pushed around? Does it mean that I will make sure that I keep the upper hand in every relationship because I refuse to be used, hurt, rejected, or dogged again? Does it mean that I become a renegade and decide that no form of authority has any place in my life? And if I choose to submit to any kind of authority it's on my own terms? (aka: you good until you check me or we don't see eye-to-eye; I then become suspious, or even angry with you) I do not believe that is a picture of Freedom at all. It is evidence, however, that we are walking in the wounds of our past. Free to BE ME means that even though the enemy threw some fiery darts( Eph 6:16) to thwart God's design for my life; I stand in Faith to quench his lies! Because I am accepted in the Beloved (Eph 1:6) I don't have to let my heart become hard. I don't have to build walls to keep people out. I don't have to prove that "I ain't no punk or chump". Because I am accepted I don't have to prove "I'm going to be alright". In Christ Jesus you and I do not have to prove anything....we can just BE! I am FREE to BE the real Me: VIBRANT, JOYFUL, HOPEFUL, LOVING, GENTLE, HUMBLE, PEACEFUL, CHEERFUL, LOYAL, HAPPY, PATIENT, KIND, SATISFIED, ACCEPTING OF WARRANTED CORRECTION/ CRITICISM, AGREEABLE, BOLD, DARING, FUN-LOVING, SELF-CONTROLLED, FULL OF DREAMS AND AMBITION! The Woman God created me to be! And you can be all that He created you to be! In short, Jesus' death on the cross purchased not only your salvation, but also your life! Let His love heal you as you and He regain control of your heart and life. In Him alone will you find purpose and meaning to your existence (Colossians 3:3). In Him you find the peace to accept yourself just as you are. You will accept your past for what it is THE PAST! Once you find that peace in Him you no longer have to walk in the shadows of life's wounds, but you can be FREE to BE ALL THAT HE CREATED YOU TO BE! And not a false knock-off! But truly FREE to BE....... YOU!